Seriously, already....at 15 months??? Oh my, this Mommy isn't ready for all this!!! I am talking screaming, arching backs, flipping & flopping all over...a full blown temper tantrum! I am doing my best to ignore them (& snap a few pictures...hehe) when this happens, but it is so hard sometimes!! Thank goodness they have yet to occur in public...I know eventually it will & I am trying to prepare myself...LOL!!
Here is video evidence of one of Cooper's fits! He will get frustrated by falling down or in this case not being able to push his giraffe backwards, and just throw a fit! And this is NOTHING for the Coopster...he can throw some doozy tantrums, but this is all I have on film!
Any advice on dealing with your child/ren
throwing fits would be greatly appreciated!!!!!
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Completely normal for this age. Just kinda have to ride it out till about 18 months when they are more able to comprehend small reasoning but you still have another two years of tantrums.
Only advice is during tantrums is to make sure they arent able to hurt themselves when they get angry and sometimes anger/frustration they will try to take it out on you and may try to hit you. The way you act the very first time this happens will set the tone on how your relationship will be. Be serious and dont laugh or smile the first time it happens tell them in a stern voice that they may never hit you. I get so sad when I see mommies pick up their kids from my daycare and they tantrum and hit them it makes me so sad for the child and the mom.
oh my word! these are priceless! i will tell you that thankfully at 22 months we're out of those but dear Lord it was awful during!! i promise you, it does get better!!
my O would quietly lay herself down on the ground to, protect her head i guess, then she would just give it heck!! kicking and screaming deluxe.
our response? walk away.
I just had to laugh at the video...even though its not funny...the poor guy was so frustrated with that giraffe!! And he was trying to tell us all about it...poor kiddo!!
I don't have any kiddos throwing tantrums at my house (YET) but what you're doing (ignoring the tantrums) is usually a helpful strategy. I've had several a kindergartener and nannied child throw themselves to the floor...and not feeding the fire as it were seems to work a lot of times.
Doesn't help the fire that comes into my cheeks when it happens in public (when I'm nannying...and everyone thinks its my kid lol)
I use a time out stool, and when my tots are doing that I sit them on or by their stool and say calmly, "If you want to act this way you may do it here, when your ready to quit you may get up" It has worked like a charm for us!
I JUST ordered the "Love and Logic" book for parenting ages birth through 6 years. My 18 month old has started through fits and making this screaming noise that is the equivalent to "I don't wanna". Where did our sweet, mild mannered babies go??? :) Wish me luck! You too! :)
I've been following your blog for a while now, but have never commented. I have a 15 month old myself (born 5 days before Hadley & Cooper) and he has just started throwing temper tantrums this week ... and it is no fun!! I don't have any advice for you, but look forward to coming back to see what advice others give because I will definitely need it! I love your blog and your babies are beautiful!!
had a few of those around here. most of the time they are fighting over a toy! even if there are two of the same toy. they want the same one!
Oh my! Lucy is right there with C&H!! Good grief, its like she's possessed or something! Well not really, but you get the idea... :-) Here's to getting through the terrible twos, i mean 15 months!!!!
We have been there since about 15 months....they are not 18 months and still going strong! I ignore them as well and they are starting last a smaller amount of time finally.
I agree, just make sure that they can not hurt themselves and leave them to have their little tantrums. When they notice that they are not getting a reaction from you then they will stop after a while. As much as its hard to hear them cry or scream, you know there is nothing wrong with them. Good luck. Do not pick them up unless they are in a dangerous spot.
Rest assured this too shall pass! Have you ever read the book called "Raising a Spirited Child"? I did not have time for the book, but watched the DVD and found some things interesting and useful.
Aww! Your babies are so sweet and cute... this post caught me off guard! My girls are just now 1 year, so I guess I need to prepare myself for what's to come! Yikes!!
We are right there with you! Lauryn started about the same age (she's almost 16 months now). The boys were about 1 1/2 b/f they started...and i hate to say it, but they still throw tantrums. But, you can reason with them better now. I think you are doing the best we can do...make sure they are safe, let them throw their fits, and ignore the behavior. I was just saying the other day, where did my sweet, easy-going baby go??? Here's to the toddler years! Best of luck!
the B/G twins I nanny for just turned 2 last month and are soooo much better than they used to be with fits! I did lots of redirection, ignoring, and tried to make light of fustrating times for them... as they got older and more verbal I helped them learn to use words to express their frustration (like this evening R sat next to M and sat on her skirt, M is a touch-me-not and instantly was angry and began screaming. I said "M say please don't sit on my dress R" and she said "no sit dress R" and he got up and scooted over nicely! I love it when they listen! Of course there is always the cry chair (a chair in the living room that is a step down from the dining room and visible from the kitchen. where they can have a few minutes to chill out!
GIRL...it must be this "age/stage" because B&B are doing it too! If you get any good tips, please share!
I'm hoping I still have a while until we make it to this stage but I just wanted to comment because when I watched the video I was CRACKING UP! and then I realized how it's always funnier when it's someone elses kid right!
Okay, I know it's not funny, but I'm laughing so hard. They are so cute - even when they are throwing fits. I have no advice because I'm not there. YET. :)
Yeah Scarlett does the same thing!! She's also in a food throwing stage too. Any advice for that?? :o) Joys of motherhood!!
We simply ignore the fit, unless they're upset by something that needs to be addressed (like dirty diapers, etc). We will tell her "Go ahead, throw a fit. It's not going to get you a thing.". She still has tantrums, but not near as bad as they could be and also she never expects to get what she wants afterward.
We feel you...J&M can throw some doozies! We try to calm them down and question what has made them so mad. We have found that they cannot fully express what they want and the frustration turns into a tantrum. We begin questioning everything...we have explained that those actions are not exceptable and sometimes we go to there room. We have scripture on the wall, and we will just begin to read those verses and help them to relax. These are not fun months. I am sure it will all calm down soon. Good Luck!
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WOW ~ Those tantrums are something. The one of Cooper is kinda funny actually. It was just funny to see him push the giraffe away from him. He was not a happy camper at all. I wish I could say that they will improve, but I would by lying. Cameron is 3 and he threw one just the other day while we were at Wal-Mart taking him from the cart and into his carseat. I think it took me about 10 minutes to get him buckled in, people were staring and I was sweating in 20° weather. Oh public tantrums are the best - NOT!!
Hope things get better, but at least they are giving you practice, before you are out in public (lol). Hang in there!!
~Lisa
I don't comment very much (but am a loyal reader!) but had to on this one..it only gets worse my friend. ;)
All jokes aside, really just ignore it. My daughter Abby has started with the throwing herself on the ground, and I just walk over her and she'll stop. They haven't started hitting yet, but when they do we'll do timeouts. Hang in there!!! :)
Girl, count your blessings it didn't start until now. E started tantrums, full blown throwing herself on the ground, etc at 8, yes 8 months!!!! I guess that's what you get when they walk as early as mine did. Man, it's exhausting!! They only get worse!!!! Hang in there! Good luck!!! I can't imagine doing it with two!
Oh yes. At about 14-15 months, my girls started the tantrums too! (They're 18 months old now). So far ignoring them has worked- they get over it pretty quickly. What a challenging job it is to be a mama! :)
These are great photos! You've truly captured the essence of a tantrum, hang in there!!
This is another blog post dealing with tantrums, it's a cute story and has a cool message about tantruming kids: http://rogermcintire.wordpress.com/2010/02/19/tantrums-even-when-they-should-be-happy/
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